Happiness Challenge Day 5: Get closer to a colleague
This is your exercise today: Reach out to someone at work — or, if you’re a student, at school — whom you would like to know better. If you’re retired or a parent who does not work outside the home, you can still participate: Consider your “workplace” anywhere you might go regularly, whether it’s a class, an organization where you volunteer or even a coffee shop in your neighborhood.
Here are four ways to forge new workplace connections:
For someone you don’t know: One of the best ways to foster a workplace friendship is to follow up about something that a person mentioned in a meeting or a group setting, said Shasta Nelson, a friendship expert and the author of “The Business of Friendship.” “Make a note to yourself about what they mentioned,” she said, “so that a week later, you can say, ‘How did that 5K race go that you said you were going to do?’ Or, ‘I hope your daughter isn’t feeling sick anymore.’” When you follow up, Ms. Nelson said, people “are so surprised and pleased.”
For a colleague you’d like to know better: Invite them to do something casual that only takes a few minutes, along the lines of: “I need to clear my head — do you want to take a quick walk around the block with me?”
Or give them a specific, thoughtful compliment, suggested Gena Cox, an organizational psychologist and executive coach based in Clearwater, Fla. “Recently, someone sent me a note out of the blue and told me why they admired me,” she said. “I was shocked. And I will always feel closer to that colleague as a result of them doing that little thing for me.”
If someone offers you any sort of help at work, whether it’s to fix a computer issue or show you where the best snack machines are, resist the urge “to automatically refuse because you don’t want to inconvenience the person,” Ms. Nelson said. “Instead, say yes. And then be generous back, and ask if there’s something you can do to make their job easier or more fun.”
